In fact, you could even get email without Internet pretty early on (at least in Eretz Yisrael).
Yet problems soon appeared as fast as you could press “Send.”
Spam - Treif in a Whole New Way
Now, spam filters come with your email.
But back then, spam could be anything from innocent but annoying ads to fílthy forbídden images.
A Whole New Area of Forbidden "Speech"
(Or, if not made completely public, at least forwarded on to the one or two people where it could do the most damage.)
The concept of “flame wars” also developed, with the lightning back-and-forth of a hot ‘n’ heavy disagreement – one unlikely to develop in a face-to-face exchange and never would have developed through a hand-written exchange of letters or even memos or faxes.
New Hacker Outlet
Inconvenience, identity theft, and worse continue to plague users.
But I thought I could handle it.
The Sweet Siren Song of Email
No more hunting the right-sized envelope or figuring out what kind of stamp and how many...no more quests to find the nearest available mailbox (common in Eretz Yisrael, with no personal mailbox for sending mail)...no more dragging myself to inconveniently located post offices to stand in line...
Furthermore, it’s an easier and seemingly gentler way of communicating with people, especially if you want to say something they don’t necessarily want to hear – whether for your own good or for theirs.
And finally, it quickly proved such a boon to employers and employees everywhere.
As just one of a million examples:
If you’re a writer, no more waiting months to receive a reply to your submission. Your submission is received immediately and rejected immediately. No more waiting and wondering for an eternity! Or accepted without the need for phone calls and stuff.
(Except now, they just state in their submissions form that if you don't hear from them by a certain time, you've been rejected.)
You can also interact with a colleague for months without ever hearing their voice.
(Just an observation; not saying whether that's good or bad.)
Oops – DELETE! DELETE!
It’s not always conventionally "bad" stuff either.
You can get intimate too fast over email, you can give forth too much of yourself via a mechanism that not only cannot be erased (unless the receiver is willing to press “Delete Forever” and even then, only Google knows whether it’s really gone), but can be forwarded infinitely for eternity.
And that’s regarding the well-intentioned use of email.
Despite my best intentions, I’ve found myself guilty of sending emails (for better or for worse) containing content I wouldn’t have said or written in snail-mail.
In fact, I think I even lost a job due to email, via the actions of a particularly disturbed and devious individual (though I’ll probably never know exactly why or how – nor even if my suspicions against that individual are actually correct).
But if it did happen in the way I suspect it did, then I deserved it (after all, I didn't need to write whatever I wrote – whatever that was; can't remember now) and kaparat ha’avonot.
Better to suffer consequences for negative actions in This World than in the World to Come.
Along those lines, altercations also occur via email that likely wouldn’t have occurred otherwise.
On a different note, many people reveal (whether private for you or hurtful for the other) all sorts of thoughts and events they might not have otherwise revealed (or revealed in such an untrustworthy medium).
Deceptively, email makes you feel private or even anonymous – and yes, you can be private or anonymous to a certain extent – which contributes to part of email’s lure and pitfall.
Ultimately, you're not private, nor are you as anonymous as you think.
Also, via email, I’ve maintained more contact with certain people than I would have otherwise – sometimes a good thing and sometimes not.
But ironically, it took me years to realize it mostly wasn’t a good thing.
After all, if you can’t be bothered to write out a letter, then address and stamp an envelope or make a long-distance phone call (or they can’t be bothered to do that for you), then what kind of relationship do you really have?
People grow in different directions and compatibilities change (or never really existed in the first place).
Staying in touch with all that isn't necessarily a positive.
Invasion of the Unwanted Emails
Other people can email you whatever they want, whenever they want, and however much they want.
But if they don't want to, well then...
Sometimes, it's relatively innocent.
People forward nice ideas, thoughts, videos, and jokes.
But you just feel overwhelmed by so many people forwarding so much.
Or, in the very earlier days of email, I subscribed to a forum hosted by a frum lady. She received via email what we now call "urban legends," so she earnestly posted these as public service announcements.
I dutifully forwarded these to people possibly threatened by these potential dangers until one acquaintance begged me to stop spamming her.
I felt terrible – and bewildered. How on earth was I spamming her?
She went on to explain how these public service announcements are actually urban legends and not necessarily true. And also, she received these from others (because everyone forwarded them), so she repeatedly kept getting the same kind of email.
It was a big lesson for me, both in gullibility and email etiquette. And I stopped.
At the other extreme of this, bad people utilize email to conduct ugly harassment or threats or foυlness or sabotage or humiliation.
What is Email Really Good For?
When my grandfather died years ago, my dad and his sisters noted that discussing and organizing everything via email worked out more smoothly and conveniently that trying to set up a series of conference calls across 3 different time zones.
And yes, I have email and continue to use it.
But what I realized more and more is that a lot of this fast and easy technology is best used for faster and easier business and short tasks – but not more.
With some of my closest relations conducted mostly via email, I definitely use email for more than fast, easy, short tasks.
However, I'm more judicious about it and more aware of the potential lack of confidentiality and security.
Scrolling and scrolling down a screen to read long, complex messages also ensures that the message isn’t absorbed as well as a printed-on-paper message.
Regardless of how habituated you are to reading on a screen, your eyes skip a lot.
Even with the specially designed anti-reflection e-ink e-readers, studies have shown that people reading a book on an e-reader understand and retain less than reading the exact same book in its print version.
But despite knowing that, I often can't avoid producing really long blog posts.¯\_(ツ)_/¯
- Business back-and-forth
- Sending invitations
- Thank-you notes (okay, not everyone agrees with me here, but I definitely prefer receiving thank-you emails to handwritten thank-you notes)
- Dropping a quick message
- Reminders
- Unavoidable long-distance communications (i.e., can you imagine blogs and forums if you had to mail your comments?)
- Sending someone pleasant thoughts, praise, encouragement, or genuinely helpful advice
- Certain kinds of photos
- Quick and helpful information (telephone numbers, names, addresses, etc.)
- Many of the heart-warming or genuine funny viral forwards are pretty nice too!
And as mentioned, I feel like now I know how to deal with it in a more judicious manner.
(Anyway, the rest of the world has gone on to WhatsApp, Instagram, and texting, so email has become tamer in comparison.)
- http://publiclibrariesonline.org/2014/02/the-physical-effects-of-e-reading/
- https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8715975/ (a study from 2021)
- https://oej.scholasticahq.com/article/125437-turning-the-page-what-research-indicates-about-print-vs-digital-reading (a study from 2024)
- https://oxfordlearning.com/screen-vs-paper-which-one-boosts-reading-comprehension/ (a Canadian study from 2025)
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